Do you ever wish you had the power to fix everyone’s problems and just make their lives better? I’ve been feeling this a lot lately as people tell me about their heartbreaking struggles. I listen dumbstruck as they tell me of loved ones they have lost, hostile in environments they have lived in, and battles they have fought. At a loss for words my only thought, my only wish is to go back in time and make those horrible things not happen to them. What words of affirmation and comfort do you offer to people fighting battles that seem impossible? What can you do to fill their lives with joy and happiness when all they have known is grief? I think the most heartbreaking thing to see is someone who is resigned to their grief. The people my heart bleeds for, the ones I want to help the most, are the completely closed-off-open-books.
The closed-off-open-books are the friendly people that make you feel like you know them so well right from the start, but then slowly you begin to see that you know nothing about them. These are people who have been broken. They accept the fact that life has and will continue to beat them down. Is it enough to tell a broken person that Jesus loves them? Is it helpful to tell someone who’s fighting that God is still in control? The truth is, I don’t know the answer.
Often times you read blogposts from people who come prepared with answers to the questions they are asking. Most bloggers are that one kid in school that ALWAYS does the homework and is always prepared for class. I’m not going to lie; usually, I am that kid. But today, I don’t know. Today I have more questions than answers. I do know that I believe God is in control of every situation. He is using His power to work good in the lives of all those who love Him, no matter the circumstance. But when someone is watching a loved one die from cancer, is that knowledge comforting? I know that I believe that God uses hard circumstance to make people stronger and draw them closer to Him. But when you can’t find a job to pay the bills, does that knowledge help? Today I’m the student who didn’t do her homework and is asking a plethora of questions in an attempt to try and mask my unpreparedness in the school of life. All I know is that I long to help those in need. To offer comfort and to give them some happy thought. To help them find joy in times of peace and strength in time of trouble, because that is what good friend does. And I would have no idea what it means to be a good friend, if Jesus didn’t show me. For there is no greater friend than the one who would die a painful death to right your wrongs and save your soul. So, who knows perhaps just being a good friend is comfort enough?